Can a Long Distance Move Hurt a Relationship?

Long distance moves can be hard on existing relationships.Today we are going to go in a bit of a different direction and discuss how moving can affect your current relationship.

Whenever you move to a new place, you leave people behind. Sometimes you continue that relationship and are able to grow together while being physically apart, but that is not always the case.

A long-distance relationship is hard. It will require a lot of communication, time, and trust to function just like any other normal relationship. The difference is that you will need even more of this because of the distance, probable time differences and not to mention lack of physical contact. Because of these, not everyone is a proponent of LDRs. If this is the case, how do you know if a long-distance relationship (LDR) is worth all the extra hassles and if it is right for you?

It is natural to want independence from people and your own time to do the things that you want to do. For some, this time happens when you move to a new location and engage in new opportunities. As a result of wanting to be your own person, may your limit contact from these people. A decrease in frequency of contact may be taken in the wrong way, and be seen as an escape. An LDR will certainly encounter miscommunication issues like missed calls and unanswered messages if you do not plan accordingly or do not have an understanding on how you will communicate.

When considering an LDR, you have to think about not only yourself, but the other person as well. Ask yourself if you two want the same things and can give them to each other. You will also have to discuss how long you foresee the distance existing and if ever there will be a point in time when that gap will be sealed. You will have to anticipate and navigate different challenges as they arise, and you will find that it is not possible to deal with these issues alone. Balance is the key to maintaining any relationship, therefore if one person’s needs change and they don’t communicate that, things will go off-balance. The same goes for when one person cannot give the other what they want or need.

Existing issues may further become magnified or long drawn out with the added issue of a warped sense of time and space. You have to remember that you will not be physically together and visits will only happen occasionally. So, for this kind of relationship to work, a great deal of patience and forgiveness is needed. People make mistakes, but if there is genuine forgiveness and learning, then it can work if you make it work. For an LDR to work, you will need to learn to compromise and quite literally, meet in the middle. However, if you are not willing to devote the required time and effort, and if physical contact is essential to you, then a long-distance relationship may not work for you.

We hope that this discussion brought some clarity to your situation. For all your long distance moving needs, please contact us to see how we can assist you.